And it was then that I started thinking, oh, my gosh, my life would have been so different. TV-14 | 06.13.2011. The counselor asked her what the McDonalds knew about all this. They understand why she didn't speak out sooner. That's all we can do. How did you feel when he said this was God's will? It's all pretty straightforward. I was just not ever meeting their expectation of intellectualism. You know, that's a big consideration because Mrs. Miller didn't want to cross her husband. And I'm sorry for her. But that's all she said. It's kind of you know, she tells me that this is, you know, you're, ah, you're my daughter. She said everybody at church, after having seen Marti beside the rest of the family, just couldn't believe that that was their child. I know that's who's your daughter and no one could ever expect you to feel otherwise. I really only thought about that one time. So I passed it off. And we think so much alike. He's just outright he's just saying, can you forgive me just just like that on the telephone. You know, so so then I thought, well, OK, then it's not so bad if she you know, she still believes she's my sister. After dinner, she sat down and told them about Mrs. Miller's letter, told them point-blank she wasn't their child. It was pretty concealed right within our own church. She wrote that in a letter to Mrs. Miller eight years after she learned the truth. And she was talking about the way her mother would talk to her. This episode, Switched at birth, is the episode they name. I'm Ira Glass. What if the switch hadn't been made, but if the McDonald's had just taken me home and I had grown up in the house with my biological parents, my biological brother, who would I be? And there are some awkward moments, like when Sue talks to Mrs. Miller about the fact that she never got enough breast milk as a baby. Marti considered whether she should go. And there were a lot of kids too. That was her idea. I was a serious person. But then Mrs. Miller told me more of her side of the story. He did not want her to push me out of the family. But Sue says there are a lot of things she missed out on, too, by not growing up with the Millers. Thanks especially to the McDonald and Miller families for letting us into their homes and telling their stories. Anyway, here's the story. Yeah, whatever. And I couldn't figure that out at the time. I can still wonder why and probably never will know why it didn't come up any sooner. Does the thought ever cross your mind? Creator/showrunner Lizzy Weiss, director Jeff Byrd and actress Bianca Bethune discuss the intense debates on set, the scene . Because he told me, you know, well, I don't care what anybody says from as far as I'm concerned, you're not really Ruth's sister. Mary Miller is 96 now, she lives by herself in the country, her house is filled with the remnants of her and Norbert's life together in the church. Well, my sisters had this crazy thing going on when Faith was a teenager. Probably the Ladies Aid, maybe, you know, the little group that got together. And, you know, because I wonder what's going to happen when my parents are gone. How the truth changed two families' livesand how it didn't. They are more like I am. And so I don't think that was too well received. I mean, that's my biological family. He told her that he thought it was God's will that this had happened. All the Millers were invited and all the McDonalds were too. The five girls shared one bedroom. They were easygoing quick to laugh and joke around. They were married for 60 years. As for Marti, she doesn't like to dwell on the notion that Sue might have been the one who lucked out. All four women say things got very lonely for them. IMDb is the world's most popular and authoritative source for movie, TV and celebrity content. In fact, that's true. And I'm really like that too. They started talking on the phone a lot. I didn't have anything to do with it. And my mother has told me since then, you know, I really didn't expect that much from you, because I knew that you weren't our child. The series, in which Ms. Leclerc plays a teenager who lost her hearing as a young child, has been off the air for more than a year . This summer, Bob McDonald, younger son, got married in period. Yeah, so it's a birthday present. Florida Woman Who Was Switched at Birth Opens Up About Her Life Post Being in the family I locked out, I lucked out. Bay Kennish grew up in a wealthy family with two parents and a brother, while Daphne Vasquez, who lost her hearing as a child due to a case of meningitis, grew up with a single mother in a poor neighborhood. So a bunch of people from the evangelical church now knew Kay MacDonald was and who she was and realized that this was the girl Mrs Miller, believed to be her own. At the hospital in 1951, Kay MacDonald was told that she'd given birth to a nine pound, four ounce baby. The Lives of Others - The Atavist Magazine She teased the groom and handed Bob's older son a present for his baby. So then I thought, well, OK, then it's not so bad. I don't care whether my husband objected or not. This is the daughter that actually was in you. So you fully appreciate the parents who raised you. That's just how she is. She's a very busy gal and I was not having that much communication with her. .9595df17.1677710915.5cf567f4 x-akamai-transformed: 9 - 0 pmb=mRUM,3 content . Yes, I told her, I think we have the wrong baby. And so while Seward figured everyone would choose Marty, the outgoing cheerleader, over her, it didn't work out that way. And my own bed, too, everything. That's how long it took her to sort out her feelings. S5 . And I'm not one to borrow trouble. [1] It's before kindergarten, so it's OK. Yeah. So he did know it too. And every time I talked to him, he'd say, oh, it's all right, it'll be all right. Maybe because some of the Miller girls had suspected that she was their sister for decades and because Mrs. Miller always knew the truth, she was being embraced completely by the Miller clan. It wasn't their place to bring up such a thing, especially with no way to know if it was true for sure, What that meant was that after Kay McDonald finally found out the truth in 1994, people started coming up to her, in church mostly, casually mentioning that they'd known about it all along. And now she wanted everyone's role to be clear. The one-hour teen and family drama series, Switched at Birth, which premiered on ABC Family on June 6, 2011 finally reversed that course (Lacob, 2011). She worried her mother might reject her. Your service title . Yes I did. He's an herbalist? Transcripts are generated using a combination of speech recognition software and human transcribers, and may contain errors. And here I am, you know, it's like I'm a teenager again and nobody dances with me. Punishes us in any way. She focused on the facts of the situation, maybe hoping she could fix things by simply setting the record straight. My mom said, oh, well, you just take after great-grandpa this or aunt so-and-so. So that was that. I never will probably understand why, I mean. She did not look nor act like any other children. Episode 360, July 25, 2008. Jun This is not my my family. Incredibly, when Marty was 21 years old, someone actually told her that she might not be a Miller, one of her older sisters, Ruth, came to visit with her husband, Rudy. My name is Bob McDonald. I was sure then that there had been a mix-up. This episode, Switched at birth, is the episode they name. I guess you can't understand. Did you feel that then after this happened a little bit closer to your dad than your mom? And I thought she even walks like Mary. It got so bad, Kay had to go on medication for high blood pressure. And. She's a very busy gal, and I was not having that much communication with her. She had both families wanting to make sure that she was included in their family. He's the creator of the new comic "Welcome to the New World-- The True Story of a Refugee Family from Syria," which runs weekly in the "New York Times.". Nobody would dance with me at the dances. Here she is. Neither Sue nor Marti blames Mrs. Miller for going along with her husband. When Marti showed up at the house for brunch the day after the wedding, she couldn't have seemed more at home with the family that she didn't meet until her 40s. Download Share a clip Transcript Owen Freeman Prologue From the McDonald's perspective, Marty looked and acted remarkably like a McDonald's. Norbert and I had a good time while we were together, but. He gives her a ride and immediately become friends. But at the same time, when she refers to Kay, she says, well, your mother is doing such and such or your mother said this. Darlene Wolfgram did tell her daughter, though. In the room that we slept in the through the register to get to the bathroom, you had to go under the bed and crawl like a dog door. Babies switched at birth - Wikipedia No, no, no. At first, they refused to believe her, but then she told them about the blood tests, finally Sue handed over all the letters that she had and sent them in the past month, letters telling them how much she loved them and how much she wanted to stay their daughter. But the good part about that was when I got home from the wedding and my brother called me and he said, you know what? It's available wherever you get your podcasts and. And as you heard in the letter, one thing that makes this whole thing even stranger is that the two couples knew each other. It exploded. Happy 43rd birthday to you, Sue. I didn't get picked. 10 Things You Didn't Know About Cast of Switched At Birth And I wanted to be a cheerleader. Kay McDonald began getting notes and phone calls from Reverend Miller. Maybe because some of the Miller girls had suspected that she was their sister for decades and because Mrs. Miller always knew the truth, Sue was being embraced completely by the Miller clan. Transcript of Switched at Birth from | Happy Scribe And so in this half of the story we hear from the mothers again. She's also religious like Sue. The church was the center of their lives. Forty two years after the switch, Reverend Miller finally laid eyes on Sue at the McDonald's wedding anniversary party. And we hope you flourished in the McDonald household. It's gripping, a real 'page turner', and it's all true. Just absolutely bizarre things like that. S1 E2 - American Gothic The parents navigate the new living situation; Daphne hangs out with Liam. And I was kind of stunned. She didn't have the Sociales that came so naturally to Bob and Marty. And I felt excluded. That is the kind of news nobody ever wants to hear. If you're just tuning in, Jake Halpern is telling the story this hour of two girls switched at birth. And I had probably all of the emotions that you have with a death in a family. So you look like her, too? Switched at Birth - This American Life And I think he honestly never thought it was a possibility. One of the toughest things both Marty and Sue have to deal with is logistical. You're still our kid and I'm glad we had you. And my mother, nothing was going to be different between us. She could have been my aunt or my mother talking on the phone. I really only thought about that one time, I only let myself think about it one time, it was actually right after I met them and I was going back to my my mother's house. I feel like I should have made a wrong into a right. She said everybody kind of at church, after having seen Marty beside the rest of the family, just couldn't believe that that was their child. And two, it was her brother she might lose. Her house is filled with the remnants of her and Norbert's life together in the church. And then she's going to say, well, I don't need that daughter anymore.